I'm Becca. I live in Minneapolis. The photos and words here are my own.

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August 28th
18:46

What to do when sadness is gnawing on your soul:

Welcome to Thursday. It’s 6:03, your alarm has been going off for several minutes, and you inexplicably have already been awake for two hours while your brain remembers all the shitty things you did a little over a decade ago.
It’ll be okay. We will get through this. Follow these instructions very closely and you will not use up the rest of your PTO:

1) cuddle on your pet cat (dogs are also basically acceptable) and tell him how everything is bullshit and what a brave handsome man he is. Do this for exactly five minutes then GET OUT OF BED. Do it fast so you’re very suddenly standing up. Balancing will distract you.

2) Put on the same business casual you wore to work yesterday (otherwise you’ll take forever picking clothes) but wear your favorite ridiculous tshirt underneath. Mine has Thor on it.

3) don’t mess around with your hair. The mirror is not your friend today.

3.5) grab headphones and sunglasses so you feel safe.

4) if you have five dollars to your name, screw making breakfast. Take yourself to the coffee shop and get one of those fancy drinks. Not super fatty and high caffeine, pick a happy medium so you don’t feel guilty/nervous. I get chai with a shot of espresso (dirty chai).

5) during your commute listen to something good. Preferably a song you enjoyed at age sixteen. NOT something sad, that’s just foolish. I usually choose Slayer for these occasions so I can practice air guitar in traffic.

6) no matter what you do, people are gonna notice that you look unwell. That is to be expected. Tell them, “I have allergies” because boundaries are a good idea most of the time. That being said, and this IS mandatory, tell someone you love and trust that you are having a hard time. Tell them they can help by going for a walk with you, or by watching cheesy tv with you- it’s important to instruct your helpers, because while they mean well, they often are baffled by strong sadness.

7) Be gentle with yourself. I mean it. Treat yourself the way you’d treat your bff if she was having a hard time. Forgive, go slow.

We’re gonna be ok.

August 23rd
21:47
We had a very fancy adventure today.

We had a very fancy adventure today.

21:46
21:45
03:07
Ponyboy was not so sure about Cali.

Ponyboy was not so sure about Cali.

August 17th
19:02
Liz and I went berry picking yesterday.

Liz and I went berry picking yesterday.

19:01
What’s this?!

What’s this?!

August 9th
17:41

Danica and I went for a walk the other night.

17:40
Wanna do it?

Wanna do it?

August 3rd
10:13

Today I looked up some tags on tumblr and discovered that there is a massive amount of hilarious stuff on this site. I mean, I already knew that on some level, but this was just… wow.

July 24th
22:40
Madonna of the Wayward Youth

Madonna of the Wayward Youth

July 21st
05:01
Mill City Museum

Mill City Museum

05:00
Building the new stadium

Building the new stadium

July 17th
22:04

Today was like this: work forever, little sleep and too much coffee, then running around on a fruitless apartment quest. At home demoralized and exhausted I decided to snap the hell out of it. Put on nicer clothes. Go for a walk. Holy shit is that Monk I hear? A trio is playing Well You Needn’t to an empty coffee shop. They ask me what I want to hear then play every standard I love. Gave me the name of a shop that can fix my keyboard and offered to trade jazz lessons for classical - I haven’t been able to afford lessons from a good teacher forever. Thanks, universe. Needed that.

July 13th
12:00
St Anthony Main construction site

St Anthony Main construction site